Here's this weeks topic: "Hardest Moments From The First Year"
Well I think we had a pretty good first year and I think what we went through what I would say was the "normal" first year of marriage stuff.
The hubs and I never lived together before we were married, so that transition was a little difficult and our new closet hardly fit all my clothes and shoes. :) Luckily, other then that we made the transition fairly easy because Dan and I were both on the same page about a lot of the house stuff.
We also decided to get a dog in the second month of being married. And by WE I really mean me forcing Dan so get a pup. Talk about HARD. Potty training a puppy is literally the most stressful thing. I'm sure it has to be worst then potty training a kid. Glad we made it through that one! and 4 years later we STILL don't have a second dog.
For me one of the HARDEST things in that first year was combining finances. I know a lot of people have a difference of opinion on this topic, but for Dan and I we decided to combine all of our finances and that was the best decision for us. But let me tell you, it was anything but easy. We fought a lot about money. Who should be "in charge", who can buy what, limits, debt, bills. You name it and we fought about it.
I was raised to be in control my own finances, but when you enter a marriage you have to learn to let your guard down. And oh boy did God have some serious work to do on my heart. I was probably more stubborn about being "in charge" of the money then Dan. After a few months I learned to let go of control. Not because Dan wanted to be in control, but because I needed to learn to trust in him and realistically I couldn't do everything. We were partners. Dan took over running the finances and I took over doing other things. No one person is "in charge", we are both aware of everything that is going on with our money. We even have occasional sit downs about OUR budget. Almost like a family meeting. It keeps us both accountable and aware.
I believe everyone has their own hard moments in the first year of marriage because every marriage is different. I think the first year is really all about learning. For me, my biggest take away that year was that marriage is about sharing responsibilities and learning to let go and trust each other.
Its crazy to sit here writing all of this and realize how far we've come. :)