Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Hard Moments From Our First Year Of Marriage {Link Up}

I'm sure you are all aware that I'm definitely not a newlywed. I'm actually considered an "old married couple". That's right 4 whole years of marriage. :) Well even though we've been married for over 4 years, I've decided to link up with Kaitlyn over at Wifessionals for her series "From One Year and Beyond". I'm definitely no Dr. Phil, but I thought it would be a fun link up and I get to reminisce. 

Here's this weeks topic: "Hardest Moments From The First Year"

Well I think we had a pretty good first year and I think what we went through what I would say was the "normal" first year of marriage stuff.

The hubs and I never lived together before we were married, so that transition was a little difficult and our new closet hardly fit all my clothes and shoes. :) Luckily, other then that we made the transition fairly easy because Dan and I were both on the same page about a lot of the house stuff. 

We also decided to get a dog in the second month of being married. And by WE I really mean me forcing Dan so get a pup. Talk about HARD. Potty training a puppy is literally the most stressful thing. I'm sure it has to be worst then potty training a kid. Glad we made it through that one! and 4 years later we STILL don't have a second dog.

For me one of the HARDEST things in that first year was combining finances. I know a lot of people have a difference of opinion on this topic, but for Dan and I we decided to combine all of our finances and that was the best decision for us. But let me tell you, it was anything but easy. We fought a lot about money. Who should be "in charge", who can buy what, limits, debt, bills. You name it and we fought about it. 

I was raised to be in control my own finances, but when you enter a marriage you have to learn to let your guard down. And oh boy did God have some serious work to do on my heart. I was probably more stubborn about being "in charge" of the money then Dan. After a few months I learned to let go of control. Not because Dan wanted to be in control, but because I needed to learn to trust in him and realistically I couldn't do everything. We were partners. Dan took over running the finances and I took over doing other things.  No one person is "in charge", we are both aware of everything that is going on with our money. We even have occasional sit downs about OUR budget. Almost like a family meeting. It keeps us both accountable and aware. 

I believe everyone has their own hard moments in the first year of marriage because every marriage is different. I think the first year is really all about learning. For me, my biggest take away that year was that marriage is about sharing responsibilities and learning to let go and trust each other. 

Its crazy to sit here writing all of this and realize how far we've come. :)


  1. Finances are definitely a hard part of marriage. I think probably 99.9% of couples deal with that at some point. We are still contemplating getting a puppy! We both really want one! Also...completely random but I LOVE your leopard sweater!

    XO Samantha

    1. thanks for stopping by and thank you for your sweet sweater comment! Love your blog!

  2. congrats on 4 years! I'm so glad you wrote about your first year with us :)

    Finances are hard for sure, and we combined ours too. So far it's worked well, the hard part for us is just wanting to be rid of our debt and knowing the road ahead is long on that.

    But I can TOTALLY relate on the potty training for the puppy! GEESH!

    1. Wasn't potty training so difficult? lol Debt is so hard to get rid of and we are still working towards a debt free life too. Good luck to you and thank you so much for stopping by!! ps your blog is so cute! I was looking at it yesterday :)

  3. I am so glad and thankful that you linked up with us and shared your heart. This type of post floating around in blogsphere was my main goal and desire when creating the link-up for the other Brides out there! I hope other women feel just as inspired by marriage as I did when reading your post! I hope you will plan to link up with us next week for question #3!


    1. thank you so so much for your sweet comment! I appreciate it! I will definitely by linking up for question 3. :)